Download speed fine, Upload speed drops from 35mbps to 1mbps as soon as I start Skype, Streamlabs, and/or Twitch - San Diego

I pay for the 940/35 with no data limit. I get 35/37 MBPS regularly, but as soon as I try to stream or simply join a NDI skype call, the upload stream drops and it's been an issue as soon as I started hosting streams. This happens as soon as I start up Streamlabs OBS, as well. I have read that Cox throttled entire neighborhoods in the middle of the pandemic so I wouldn't be surprised, with the lack of Net Neutrality and consequences, Cox is throttling my connection. Would a VPN be better?

Here is the article of Cox throttling entire neighborhoods www.techdirt.com/.../major-isp-cox-begins-throttling-entire-neighborhoods-excessive-usage.shtml

I am on a wired connection from a Netgear C7800 modem/router. This was a problem with the panoramic, as well. 

Any other streamers having these issues?

Also, I've spent at least 7 hours on the phone/chatting with cox about this. Seems to get nowhere. It is good for a sec, then just drops as soon as I try to actually use these speeds.