ContributionsMost RecentMost LikesSolutionsRe: private email server Cox is trying to fix something, but doing it badly. I fight with mine get it running and then it stops Again. The relay is the latest issue. It might be time to look at Office365 Home. It’s $100 per year and covers up to five people. Re: Unable to send email from Cox SMTP outgoing server on iphone and ipad First I use an outside mail service. I don’t use Cox mail. I had the same problem. I could send out but not in. The Cox rep told me that they had made changes to the server. After a month I solved it. Outgoing is the smtp.fox.net. SSL on. No password. BUT I use port 25. Cox told me to use 465. That didn’t work. Previous to this I had deleted the mail. Powered down and up and powered down the router to clear any junk stuck in memory. Hope this helps.