Read the forum guidelines
I just added Home Life automation to my new house because of the convenience of already having cox but the inconvenience of it not being compatible with Alexa Might be enough for me to switch it out with something more universally user friendly. I love my Alexa's and part of the reason for wanting a smart Thermostat and lights was so Alexa could help us manage them.
Becky, any possibility Cox might combine or connect Cox Home Life with it's new Cox2M for IoT? I think that could be a very smart move.
As for Alexa, have you had any luck with the Icontrol 3rd party app? See it mentioned in a Reddit post, so take with a grain of salt.
I also found this detailed post about WHY it's not possible. Atleast, right now.